Why Does She Keep Bringing Up the Past? 5 Reasons She Holds “Grudges” Written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT Owner of Modern Love Counseling *It is important to note that although I am using specific gender identifications, I am not intentionally meaning to exclude or generalize behaviors unfairly based on someone’s preferred gender identification. This article is an example of themes I have heard in my experience as a couples therapist from heterosexual, cisgender couples. However, this content .