How to Improve Sex in a Relationship | Here’s How Your SEXpectations may be Limiting Your Sex Life in a Longterm Relationship I often hear the common complaint from clients regarding their intimacy and sexual relationship with their longterm partner: “We don’t have as much sex as we used to.” “We have become complacent. Sex is more of a routine.” “Our honeymoon stage is way gone.” “I don’t really ever desire sex.” .