Category Archives: Misunderstandings

Why Does My Partner Need Space?

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Why Does My Partner Need Space? Written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT Owner of Modern Love Counseling and Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box If you have found yourself disheartened with the question, “Why does my partner need space when we argue?” this article may be just what you need in order to build more understanding. Most couples find themselves at times in an repeated conflictual cycle that gets easily activated .
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How to Stop Parenting Your Partner

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How to Stop Parenting you Partner and What to Do Instead Written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT Owner of Modern Love Counseling and Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box How to stop parenting your partner may seem like a challenging process, because you’ve probably tried everything you can think of. You may be on the verge of breaking up, or finding yourself fantasizing about that green grass on the other side. Before .
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Stop Trying To Fix Everything in Your Relationship

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Stop Trying to Fix Everything in Your Relationship : 6 Things You to do Instead Written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT Owner of Modern Love Counseling and Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box “Stop trying to fix everything in your relationship!” may be something you’ve heard a bazillion times. Maybe it’s something you didn’t even know you were trying to do; but you just know you hate when the one you .
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Examples of Power Struggles in a Relationship

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Examples of Power Struggles in a Relationship | How to Tell if You Are Butting Heads to Gain Control (and why?) Awe… the honeymoon phase. Isn’t it bliss?  There are seemingly no “real” struggles in the honeymoon phase, right? Just fun dates and lots of sex. There’s no arguing about who loads the dishwasher, or picks up the check(s). No one is frustrated about always initiating sex or what to eat for dinner. .
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How to Support Your Partner with Anxiety

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How to Support Your Partner with Anxiety : 5 Things to Try If you’ve never struggled with anxiety, anxiety attacks, panic or excessive worry, than it may be challenging for you to know how to support your partner when they do. Being someone that has had GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder) for most of my life, it can be challenging to feel understood. Even having an ability to understand GAD from a .
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Things to Try if You Don’t Feel Heard : 5 Ways to Express Yourself Differently

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5 Things to try if you don’t feel heard : Feeling unheard or misunderstood in your relationship can be incredibly isolating. It can also be exhausting when you’ve tried everything you can to explain how you’re feeling and your partner still doesn’t hear you.  I often hear my clients report that their biggest complaint in their relationship(s) is that they aren’t being heard. They feel they communicate effectively and express themselves clearly. So what .
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Dating Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder : How to Identify the Symptoms

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Dating someone with borderline personality disorder can sound really scary. Dating someone with borderline personality disorder can also sound really serious. Especially if you’ve never heard of a “personality disorder” in general or have any idea what it actually means. Mental health as a whole can be very nerve racking if we don’t have a full understanding of what is really going on. I write this blog specifically because the majority .
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Why Women Leave Their Ideal Marriages

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Why Women Leave their “Ideal”Marriages : Three themes I have seen as a Relationship Therapist *It is important to note that although I am using specific gender pronouns, I am not intentionally meaning to exclude or generalize behaviors unfairly based on someone’s preferred gender identification. This article is an example of themes I have heard in my experience as a couples therapist from heterosexual, cisgender couples. However, this content has and can be a theme in any .
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Impacts of Childhood on Relationships

5 Ways Your Childhood Impacts Your Relationship(s)

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5 Ways Your Childhood Impacts Your Relationship Maybe you know the ways your childhood impacts your relationship(s). Maybe you’ve never thought about it. As an Attachment Based Therapist, I see the impacts of bonds and relationships. From my perspective, strong bonds are what keep us grounded, feeling confident and secure in ourselves and our world around us. I believe, we all need and desire to feel safe and secure; this is what motivates .
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Why Does She Keep Bringing Up the Past?

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Why Does She Keep Bringing Up the Past? 5 Reasons She Holds “Grudges” Written by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT Owner of Modern Love Counseling *It is important to note that although I am using specific gender identifications, I am not intentionally meaning to exclude or generalize behaviors unfairly based on someone’s preferred gender identification. This article is an example of themes I have heard in my experience as a couples therapist from heterosexual, cisgender couples. However, this content .
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