Category Archives: Misunderstandings

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Are You “Too Needy?”

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Are you “Too Needy?” What does this title even mean and is it accurate? “You’re too needy.”  “You expect too much.” “Your expectations are too high.” “Why are you acting like that?” “You’re overreacting!” If you have ever dated, most likely you have been told at one point directly (or have been given an indirect message) that you are being “too needy.” Although our society predominately attaches this label more toward women .
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Things You Don’t Realize You Do When You’re Feeling Rejected

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Feeling Rejected or Criticized : How to Become More Self Aware and Empowered, Rather than Reactive and Isolated It’s inevitable, isn’t it? Feeling rejected or criticized. You may currently be feeling rejected by a romantic partner, although I am sure you can also relate to feeling rejected or criticized by a friend, mentor, teacher, employer, family member, parent, etc. We are complex creatures and our emotions, behaviors and thoughts/assumptions are extremely .
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Why You Shouldn’t Ask “Are You Going To Have Kids?”

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Are You Going To Have Kids? How Asking About Children May Actually Be Hurtful Are you going to have kids? May seem like an innocent question. Our culture especially finds this a “normal” topic of conversation considering it is just assumed that everyone wants children… or can have them. I work with an array of clients varying in relationship status; single, dating, in a relationship(s), married. My clients have been extremely successful in .
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Self Esteem & Self Perceptions

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Internal Conflicts & Self Esteem : Does being “privileged” impact how we see ourselves and express our emotions? Most of my clients come in with some kind of emotional regulation, confidence and/or relationship “issue.”  (Why? Well, who doesn’t struggle with these three things at times in their life?) Although these factors are extremely common, I have recently noticed a reoccurring theme with the specific clients who identify themselves as “privileged.” This adds a .
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Men in Therapy

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Men in Therapy: A Societal Judgement I personally despise the idea of men having to be “macho” at all times.  Societally, we put a lot on our men to be brave, strong, buff, responsible, rich, a provider, romantic, etc, etc. Personally, I appreciate and find nothing more intimate than when my partner opens up to me with raw emotions. I love his ability to trust me enough to expose his deep fears and .
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What is really going on in our relationship?

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Our Relationship’s Dance: The truth about why we argue. Being an attachment based therapist, I do believe there is a powerful connection to our childhoods and how we form relationships with others in our adulthood. In a sense, in times of conflict, we really do resort to child-like behaviors in an attempt to regulate our emotions and get security from others. When you find yourself struggling with understanding your partner, your .
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